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Full Disclosure

By Lee Benoit (Guest Blogger)

The second week in October includes National Coming Out Day. It’s an international observance despite the name. You can read about the history of NCOD pretty much anywhere, but the Human Rights Campaign has a particularly good description.

Since the earliest days of the gay rights movement, activists like Harvey Milk understood coming out as a political act. Even now, four decades in, the evidence is overwhelming that it’s really, really difficult for a person to remain homophobic when he or she knows a person who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or otherwise a member of a sexual minority.

But coming out is a personal act too. Disclosing such a big part of the truth of who you are is scary, even if you’re pretty certain you’ll be received with love and acceptance. It’s worth it, even when the cost is high. I’ve lost friends and I have relatives who don’t bother with my big queer self anymore. But I’ve been honest, and I’ve been brave. I’ve been a person my kids can be proud of (and they are -- you should see them at Pride events!). Coming out is usually worth the effort.

And it is an effort. For most of us, coming out is a process. The process is sometimes full of switchbacks and hairpin turns -- it’s seldom linear or logical. Moreover, the process is never complete. Every time I’m in a new setting or meet new people, especially settings or people I’ll be spending significant time with, I have coming-out decisions to make. In or out? Now or later?

I’m in my mid-forties now, and I started coming out to lovers more than twenty years ago. I was out to my students before I was out to my mom. I wasn’t out to my doctor until one thought to ask. And I wasn’t out at work until I took a tenure-track job in public higher education. Which brings me to another point: sometimes coming out isn’t about the person coming out.

I teach social sciences at an urban community college. Many of my students are LGBT youth (or not-so-youth) whose school and family experiences have been less than supportive. Some of my students are homeless, or living in group homes, or working so many hours in their efforts to remain independent that I have a hard time understanding how they maintain passing grades. More than one of these determined, hard-headed, damaged, brave students have told me that knowing someone like me, having a professor who’s out, makes a difference.

Some of my students (and indeed some of my colleagues) have never met a gay person or a trans person. I’ve run National Coming Out Day events at which more than one person asked, “What is coming out?” and then backed warily away from the information table when I explained. That kind of ignorance hurts my heart, but it’s not always the end of the story. So folks who think LGBT people are strange or wrong or other, I’m out for them too.

Not a lot of people I work with know I write fiction. But to me writing LGBT stories is one more way to be true to myself, and to honor the truths of those who’ve shared their lives and stories with me.

I usually try to mark National Coming Out Day by coming out -- exercising my voice, being visible, presenting my full self -- in a new venue. But I’m pretty well out all over these days, so I’m especially grateful to Lisabet for the invitation to share a guest post here at Beyond Romance.

So here goes: Hi there, Beyond Romance readers. My name is Lee Benoit, and I’m an out, proud bisexual.

Now, readers, do you have any coming out stories to share? Don’t forget, LGBT Allies are often faced with their own coming out dilemmas. I’m all ears!

Many thanks, Lisabet, for inviting me to visit here today! I look forward to continuing the conversation!

Cheers,

Lee xo

About me: Before dawn and after dark, I am a writer of queer fiction, some contemporary, some speculative, some historical. During the daylight hours I am a professor of sociology & anthropology. In the old days, I traveled the world doing field research. Nowadays, I live in the middle of a New England hayfield where being a two-spirit single parent provides more than enough excitement. I also paint watercolors, bake wild-yeast sourdough bread, rear guinea fowl, and share my bed with a pair of cats and an abjectly adoring hound-retriever mutt. Whenever I get itchy feet and miss the world of research and advocacy, I invent a new world in my head and take notes on what happens there.

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The highs and lows, exhilaration and challenge of coming out in all its varieties may drive my fiction more than I think. My latest full-length release, SERVANT OF THE SEASONS, (Torquere Press) is the story of a post-apocalyptic world in which an ally loses almost everything in defense of his lesbian employees and then rebuilds his life around the discovery and exploration of his own same-sex attractions. I didn’t set out to write a story in which self-knowledge and self-disclosure were pivotal, but that’s the way it unfolded, and I’m pretty pleased with it!

Here’s a blurb: When architect Mèco is turfed -- ejected from his protected but autocratic Dome -- he finds himself adrift in a dying and dangerous land. With no choice but to scrape his survival from an abandoned farm, he tries to improve his prospects by acquiring an animal to pull his plow. What he ends up with instead are two slaves, a bonded pair of Novigi, a strange people Mèco's never heard of. As the land slowly awakens by their combined efforts, so does Mèco's sense of himself as a man and -- maybe -- a lover. But when their fragile home is threatened by brutal gangs of Salters, Mèco and his friends discover being servants of the seasons may not be enough to protect their new way of living and loving. They must become warriors.

Originally published as the four-part Torquere Press Chaser series Servant of the Seasons; revised and re-edited for re-release as a full-length novel.

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