By A P von K’Ory (Guest Blogger)
Writing New Adult steamy romance novels, I lend words to some pretty “hairy” relationships. Conflict by the heaps because that’s what it’s all about, or I wouldn’t have a story readers want to devour.
But all roads of the character arc preferably lead to HEA, right?
So when the HEA is reached, my heroine is aware that there are still rules to adhere to because we’re all very different individual beings. Compromises must be made where called for. I never allow my heroines to make sacrifices or tolerate anything purely to “make him happy”. Nor do I let her suffer in silence “in the name of love”. Secretly, I actually believe that my hero has the “duty” to be the one making sacrifices and being tolerant to make her happy. Yes, I’m totally woman, old- or new-fashioned. I love those doors being opened for me, I adore being helped out of and into my coat, or having hubby and his male friends rise and button up their jackets when I enter a room, or when I get up to go powder my nose. And when I come back from the powdering too, of course.
I’m not a fan of misogynists in whatever veiled shade, shape or inclination. I’ve seen my bestie heartbroken and in bitter fights with her own child because the pubescent girl (thank internet and our smart kids) asked mother dear whether rape, beating, tying up, burning with candles and letting the boy/man wrap his hands around her throat and choke her was the norm in sex? And was that how dad and mother dear made her? The girl, in resolute disgust, swore off sex forever.
But I do get weak-kneed and love strong dominant men who are perfect gentlemen – until they get to the bedroom.
That said, my heroines don’t fall into that trap so many women end up in: That when he does something good or loving, it cancels out all the bad. Like in real life, that never works in the end, it simply becomes a habit and with that comes resignation. Mutual consent is not the equivalence of a restaurant’s “all you can eat”. I make sure my heroine has an alternative ‘safeword’ for “this isn’t what I thought it was or imagined it would be like”, when a situation crops up that hadn’t been anticipated and shouldn’t happen in any circumstance. A heroine’s consent isn’t “all inclusive”.
And compromises are not made solo.
Here are ten things I make sure my heroine’s man would never, ever dream of doing:
1. Prince Charming or Bad Boy, he’d never hold her past against her.
2. Despite his family, himself or (if he has them with someone else) his children, she remains his Numero Uno of all Numero Unos. She comes first and at his side when he needs to take care of the family, children, or needs some alone time for himself. She’ll never be the spare wheel, never left in the back seat.
3. He’d never wrinkle his nose, accuse her or call her names because of her sexual desires or preferences. Of course she’ll tell him about them. It’s where the relationship runs healthy on mutual compromises.
4. Likewise, he’d never expect her to fulfill all of his fantasies. People are too individual as human beings and will never end up with a loved one who is precisely like them in the fantasy department.
5. Even while angry, he’d never turn that anger on her by belittling or humiliating her. If he’s stewing within, he’ll still treat her with respect. He’d never talk down to her or speak to her with total disregard of her feelings. Even in a BDSM relationship, fundamental humanity is prerogative in the couple’s shared life. It’s why people describe it as “role playing”. Shared normal and everyday life and love isn’t role playing.
6. He’d never toss the I’m-not-talking-to-you BS at her. I’m personally very averse to withdrawal as a form of physical and emotional punishment and I project this on my heroines. Whatever stress, quarrel or disagreement he’s had with her or with someone or something else, using coldness as punishment is one of the unhealthiest traits in a relationship. In a non-toxic relationship, he’ll tell her why he wants to be alone, however long that might be. She might fret with concern but she’ll be aware of the reason why he wants his privacy.
7. He’d never be frivolous or cavalier about her feelings. A man intent on a healthy relationship will not discount her feelings constantly, making her wonder if there is something wrong with her.
8. He won't make fun of her in front of friends. My heroine jolly well knows the difference between fond teasing and malicious commentary, however jocular.
9. He’d never skirt around soothing her fears or insecurities. Instead, he’ll help her face her fears head-on particularly after a confrontation between the two of them, or a nasty situation or occurrence that unsettled her. The unhealthy man doesn’t have time to make you feel better, nor does he care why you’re upset. I never let my heroine tolerate any of this but rather speak out about her feelings on the subject.
10. My heroine will never tolerate a selfish man. A good loving man can give back without any selfishness wedged in. He wants to give her his all, and is willing to give up what doesn’t make her happy. He wants to be his best self to her. He’s healthy enough to take but also give back, and ready to apologize if he acts selfishly. Best of all, he’s ready to change his behavior exclusively for her happiness.
About my new book Her Ravishing Heartless Prince: This sizzling new romance is a stand-alone spin-off from my phenomenally successful Golden Shana series. I‘ve given two of the secondary characters their own fiery relationship – and their own Happily Ever After.
Blurb
He’s
a European prince with over a thousand-year-old
lineage
and he hates her as much as he craves her
Alyssa
When
I’m introduced to Prince Carl-Theodor Frederick Maximillian
Christoph Albert Maria Johann Anselm 17th Prince of Saxony-Bremer and
Lautenburg-Bornheim an-der-Elbe, I’m as breathless as his endless
name. Something savage twists inside me. Gorgeous and charming as he
might be, I don't trust men like him, men who believe they're a
superior species, who wield near-unlimited power with the license of
ancient nobility.
Instinct warns me to keep away or I might
get burnt to a cinder.
It's easier and safer to pretend he
doesn't touch me. So I use my imagination to dream up insults,
abusing and defaming him and his family. Meanwhile, I try to avoid
him.
Until I can’t, because he turns out to be irresistible.
Soon, he has me on my knees before him, which, alas, is exactly where
I want to be. But what does he want? Prince Hot and Cold, arctic ice
and lava, he brings me to the edge of insanity.
Prince
Carl-Theodor of Saxony-Bremer
At
first sight, Alyssa blinds me with her beauty.
Then she wrecks
my being like a derailed express train.
Never has anyone so
deeply insulted me or my family. Rage transfixes me, my pride so
deeply injured that it seems my heart bleeds into my innards.
Since
my father died, I am Head, Protector, and Defender of the House of
Saxony-Bremer. I won't endure hearing my family slandered, then do
nothing about it. I vow to avenge my bloodline, to pay her back in
kind for her vicious words. I'll make her hurt, make her taste her
own medicine.
But hurting her f*cking turns around to hurt me.
I can bend her to my will, but once she's tamed, once she hurts like
hell, her pain reaches out to me. Have I committed myself to a vow I
can’t keep?
NOTE:
This book is
strictly for
mature readers 18 and over.
Book
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Excerpt
The flight crew announces that our flight will last about six and a half hours. Enough time, I decide, to do as much work as possible so that I’ll have some free hours to spend shopping or sightseeing when we land in Dubai.
I’m steeped in sorting out Promotion Expenses from Advertising Expenses and tax deductible Business Expenses when I sense a shift in the air around me.
My head instantly swims in the subtle mist of bergamot and Sicilian mandarin with a side dish of cardamom, nutmeg and thyme, garnished with pure unadulterated male musk.
Intoxicating.
A smell I’d recognize in my sleep.
I lift my chin and fix my gaze in midair before glancing at the presence sitting on me like a mountain. He stands there like a Roman column in the Forum, eyeing my charts and figures on my MacBook screen. The delphinium eyes perched atop Hephaestus sculpted chin and jawline are – thank God! – not looking at me. I try not to break my own spine, sitting as ramrod straight as if I’m transfixed.
His body is all over my skin like an Australian bushfire burning on the spot.
Because time has stopped.
The world has stopped.
All activities are in my head and body.
I swallow, praying for time to hurry up and get me past this horrible moment.
“Excellent work,” he says softly in the deep voice he should use when gently caressing something he worships.
The fire on my skin pops and tingles, spreading in ever increasing concentric waves of circles like those on the surface of a pond after a stone is thrown in the water.
I look up at him towering over me. “Are you my supervisor?” I manage to say so calmly I surprise myself.
A slow smile spreads halfway somewhere on his devastating face but I don’t wait to see where.
“The mores of civil human behaviour, Alyssa.”
He hits me back with my own argument of a while ago.
I need all I can garner to calm my shivers.
Because I’m in the fangs of a rogue desire deep inside me that heats up and tears through my blood. A hungry heat. A starving desire. The air between us is visibly vibrating like metal – subtle but so intense and there that the vibrations caress the skin on my nape, real and savage like a vampire’s breath. The tingle is like a caged animal clawing and banging its head at the bars for freedom.
Carl-Theodor steps even closer to me shifting the air around us some more, like a whirlwind suddenly picking up a furious speed.
I feel something incredibly warm, soft and heavy land on my shoulder out of the blue forcing a whimper to escape me as I gasp. My heart pole-vaults into my throat.
“It’s meant as a genuine compliment, flower. Relax.”
The soft heavy warmth is gone as suddenly as it had come. He strides away back to his seat with the grace of a barbaric warrior king.
Al, relax. You’re not the self-doubting sort.
Jesus.
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Golden Shana Book 1
A glimpse of her in the opera house made me a walking calamity. A dismissive smirk instead of her name scorched me. I’d hunt her down till I find and claim her as mine.
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About the Author
A P von K’Ory writes romance, psychological thrillers, and nonfiction. She loves diversity – it’s in her aristocratic DNA. She has won more than half a dozen prizes and awards from four continents. Her family stretches from the Nilotes of the Eastern African Nile Delta to Germany, France, and the Walloons (Belgium). She lectures Economics and Sociology in Austria, Germany, and Switzerland. She’s married and has a son. Being migratory – and weather willing – she lives in Germany, France, Cyprus, and Greece.
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